by NaijNaira
0 comment

Sometimes when facing problems in marriage ,it can be frustrating,depressing and so much more.

Most times when a marriage is experiencing trouble , people tend to see their Marriage as a mistake rather than seeing the mistakes they are making in their marriage.

At this point they regret marrying their wife or husband, and they begin to think of a new partner.

They wished they married their ex or fantasize about other numerous partners they had before tieing the knot.

Some even go as far as divorcing and remarrying and later wish they had remained with their first Spouse, some remarries and they find greater trouble in the new spouse,but they remain so society won’t see them as been the problem, meanwhile deep down they wished they tackled the problem instead of choosing the latter.

This is because the first marriage was not a mistake, and the mistake has not been discovered yet.

So you can remarry as many times as you like, you will still experience problems in marriage though it might not be the one you are running away from , but there will still be problems.

Until you discover the mistakes you are making in your marriage and correct them there will still be problems.

So divorce or separation is not a solution to consider when you are having problems with your marriage, except you are no longer in love with your spouse then you can go ahead and divorce him or her.

When your car has a flat tyre, you do not abandon it, but repair the tyre and move on.

When we have a headache, no matter how excruciating the headache is, we do not cut off the head but take drugs for the headache.

When a bulb blows out in the room we do not change the room or the house, we replace the bulb and light up the room.

When we have challenges at work, we do not refuse to go to work, we go there and solve the problems.

So when marriage has an issue, we don’t have to try to change the spouse instead of changing the attitude that is creating the problem.

Most times when we see some couples enjoying their marriages and enjoying each other to the fullest, we admire and cherish them, but the opposite is seen in our own marriage. The reason is that some people have worked on their marriage by paying the necessary price and that is why they are enjoying the fruits of their labour. It is said, “The way you make your bed is the way you will lie on it”.

Your marriage is as good or as sweet as you make it. Some couples, because of the negative things they are seeing in their marriage, accuse each other of being responsible. They point accusing fingers at each other for being responsible. Some even say many bad things about their spouse, even calling him or her names; some think that marrying that man or that woman was a mistake.

It is not so, your marriage was not a mistake, you are the mistake. Your habit is the mistake, Your character is the mistake, Your manner, anger, unforgiveness, laziness, lack of love, lack of affection, lack of attention, impatience, bitterness, selfishness, resentment, ignorance, stinginess, not being considerate, infidelity and lovelessness are the mistakes.

Talking about Bitterness.

Some still dream of a marriage with their ex seeing your spouse as a stumbling block. Wake up and smell the coffee. Be content with your spouse. That behavior is your mistake.

So get up now and rebuild your marriage because it is not a mistake. Divorce or separation have ripple effects and are never options unless it is LIFE threatening.

This article was updated 3 days ago


Leave a Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Copyright © – 2024 CIV DigiTech Media Ltd. All Rights Reserved